By Zach Hickerson
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January 19, 2020
The reason for this article is that it seems in current church culture we are confused as to what it means to have fellowship with one another. We mistake interaction and small talk for fellowship. We settle for superficial conversation and secular discussion rather than embracing our time together as an opportunity to build intimate, spiritual, meaningful, challenging, and edifying relationships with one another which is the essence of true biblical fellowship. In the event that we are establishing fellowship with others, it is way too often with the wrong people and as Paul says, “bad company corrupts good morals.” Therefore, it is imperative that we as believers understand with whom we are to fellowship and with whom we are not to fellowship. We are called to love everyone, but we are not called to fellowship with everyone. In Acts 2:42 we see the word “fellowship”. This word is used to describe the interaction and relationship between the believers. It is also the same word in the English as well as the Greek that Paul and John use to describe our relationship with the Father and his Son, Jesus Christ. ( 1 Cor. 1:9 , 1 John 1:3 ). The third context it is used is during the instruction that Paul gives on how believers are not to interact with unbelievers. For the sake of this article, we are going to focus on defining with whom believers are to have fellowship and what that fellowship should involve. HAVE FELLOWSHIP WITH BELIEVERS The word “Fellowship” comes from the Greek word (koinonia) which can be defined; fellowship, association, community, communion, joint participation, intercourse, intimacy. God has designed our relationship with believers and even described it as a family. We are brothers and sisters in the kingdom. We are called to love each other and lay down our lives for one another. Jesus says that people will know we are his disciples by the way we love one another. The idea is that the way we love one another will spark such curiosity, interest and desire in the hearts of unbelievers that they will want to become part of the family by putting their faith in Jesus Christ. In Acts 2:44-46 , you will notice it specifically says that “all the believers”gathered every day in the temple and from house to house. It does not say that “all the people”gathered together. The“believers”gathered together. This was an exclusive group, but the invite was open to all. The one condition to join the group was that you become a born-again believer in Jesus Christ. That same invitation and condition is true today for all people. Once you were saved, you joined the family and at that point were welcome to gather as part of the family. (See the article titled, “The Gospel”, for a more in-depth explanation of how to join the family of God.) Let’s read these verses before outlining what it means to fellowship with believers. Acts 2:42-47 41 So those who accepted his message were baptized, and that day about three thousand people were added to them. 42 They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread, and to prayer. 43 Everyone was filled with awe, and many wonders and signs were being performed through the apostles.44 Now all the believers were together and held all things in common.45 They sold their possessions and property and distributed the proceeds to all, as any had need. 46 Every day they devoted themselves to meeting together in the temple, and broke bread from house to house. They ate their food with joyful and sincere hearts,47 praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. Every day the Lord added to their number those who were being saved. The idea is that our love for others will overflow out of the fellowship described and that the last line will happen as a result - “Every day the Lord added to their number those who were being saved.” Here are a few key takeaway points from these verses that expound upon what true fellowship should involve. Fellowship with Believers from Acts 2:42-48 Centered around the Word of God and the apostles’ teaching ( Acts 2:42 ) Involves breaking of bread in order to take the Lord’s supper ( Acts 2:42 ) Involves prayer for one another and prayer for others ( Acts 2:42 ) Involves holding all things in common and providing for each other ( Acts 2:44-45 ) Meeting together in the temple and house to house ( Acts 2:46 ) Eating meals together ( Acts 2:46 ) Praising and worshiping God together ( Acts 2:47 ) We are designed for family. We all desire to belong and if you are a believer you belong to the family of God. In the bible, many people followed Jesus before they believed, but you have to believe in order to belong. Through believing and belonging you become more like Jesus everyday as a result of the fellowship you have with God and the fellowship you have with believers. The entire purpose of Christianity is that we would know God intimately and from that place of intimacy we would go out and make God known to others. HAVE NO FELLOWSHIP WITH UNBELIEVERS It may sound harsh to say that we are not to have fellowship with unbelievers, but it is biblical. In order to prove it we will look at a verse written by Paul under the inspiration and guidance of the Holy Spirit. We will also look at the greek words and discuss the meaning of each of them. 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 14 Don’t become partners with those who do not believe. For what partnership is there between righteousness and lawlessness? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?15 What agreement does Christ have with Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? 16 And what agreement does the temple of God have with idols? For we are the temple of the living God, as God said..." Here are the underlined words with their greek equivalent and meaning: Partners - (Greek: heterozygeō) - Definition: bound together, unequally yoked Partnership - (Greek: metochē) - Definition: a sharing, communion, fellowship Fellowship - (Greek: koinonia) – Definition: fellowship, association, community, communion, joint participation, intercourse, intimacy As you can see in the verses above and by referencing the words Paul uses to give this instruction, it is clear that we as believers are not called to have fellowship with unbelievers. We are not to cultivate intimate friendships or relationships with unbelievers. We are not to share intimate or confidential information with unbelievers. We are not to confess our sins to unbelievers. We also are not to seek spiritual or important life decision guidance from unbelievers. In addition to these, we are not to be unequally yoked which means we are not to marry or become business partners with unbelievers. However, if we disengage completely with unbelievers, then no one will get saved. So, what do we do? We love and interact with unbelievers so that they might come to repentance and be saved. We are called to love them in hopes that we can one day have fellowship with them as brothers and sisters.We are ultimately called to fellowship with believers and love unbelievers. Jesus said in Matthew 9:13 “…For I didn’t come to call the righteous, but sinners.” And in Luke 19:10 “For the Son of Man has come to seek and to save the lost.” One common misconception is the understanding or statement that Jesus was a friend of sinners. Jesus was accused of being a friend of sinners ( Luke 7:34 , Matthew 11:19 ), but this was not a self-prescribed titled. He spent time with sinners by eating with them, healing them, delivering them, and most of all speaking the Truth to them. However, his inner and outer circles were disciples only. Yes, Jesus interacted with sinners and loved sinners, but we have to be careful not to say he was friends with sinners. He certainly spent time with sinners and was not threatened or influenced by them, but he did not have fellowship with sinners. It is interesting to note how Jesus was repeatedly invited to meet and eat with sinners, tax collectors, Pharisees as well as how often they followed, listened to, and hung around him. This certainly proves that our demeanor and love should be such that we are invited over by sinners rather than written off or shunned by those that do not yet believe. Paul even gives instructions on how to act when invited over by an “unbeliever” ( 1 Corinthians 10:27 ). We must make sure that in these interactions we do not compromise and that we stand up for the truth as well as speak the truth in love during these moments with those who have not yet come into the faith. LOVE EVERYONE In Matthew 25 we read “ ‘For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat; I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink; I was a stranger and you took me in; 36 I was naked and you clothed me; I was sick and you took care of me; I was in prison and you visited me.’” These verses simplify what we collectively as the Church have overcomplicated. It gives us tangible examples of how to love someone. Here are those examples summed up with a few points added. Take the stranger in to love them, not fellowship with them Visit the prisoner to speak the truth and life to them Take care of the sick so that they may see, feel, and hear the love of Jesus Feed, give drink, and clothe those in need so that they may see, feel, and hear the love of Jesus How else can we love everyone? By serving them By listening to them By speaking the Truth to them By laying down our lives for them By putting their needs above our own needs By praying for them By providing for them By protecting them By comforting them By encouraging them Jesus always spoke the truth to sinners. He always saw past the surface and into their potential. His invite was the same to all “Come and follow me”. Our invite to others should be the same, “Come and follow Jesus” in hopes that as they come, they would follow and as they follow that they would believe. Jesus himself said in Matthew 22:37-39 , “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and most important command. The second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself.” We will end this article with the story of the Good Samaritan. Luke 10:25-37 25 Then an expert in the law stood up to test him, saying, “Teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?” 26 “What is written in the law?” he asked him. “How do you read it?” 27 He answered, “Love the Lord your Godwith all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind,” and “your neighbor as yourself.”28 “You’ve answered correctly,” he told him. “Do this and you will live.” 29 But wanting to justify himself, he asked Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?” 30 Jesus took up the question and said: “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho and fell into the hands of robbers. They stripped him, beat him up, and fled, leaving him half dead. 31 A priest happened to be going down that road. When he saw him, he passed by on the other side. 32 In the same way, a Levite, when he arrived at the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33 But a Samaritan on his journey came up to him, and when he saw the man, he had compassion.34 He went over to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on olive oil and wine. Then he put him on his own animal, brought him to an inn, and took care of him. 35 The next day he took out two denarii, gave them to the innkeeper, and said, ‘Take care of him. When I come back I’ll reimburse you for whatever extra you spend.’ 36 “Which of these three do you think proved to be a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of the robbers?” 37 “The one who showed mercy to him,” he said. Then Jesus told him, “Go and do the same.” We are commanded to “Go and do the same.” We are commanded to love our neighbor, not just our brothers and sisters. In this story, it is clear that we are to make neighbors. All of us have the opportunity to be a Good Samaritan and anyone we come across throughout our day has the potential to be a neighbor. We are called to love the stranger on the corner, the poor person down the street, the prisoner locked up, the needy, the sick, the brokenhearted, the suicidal, the crippled, the wounded, the elderly, the youth, the lost and all those held captive by the devil in their sins. Their souls lay in the balance of our obedience to the commands of Jesus instructing us to love, preach, heal, deliver and make disciples of all nations. Every act of love is an opportunity for someone to encounter Jesus. Next time you find yourself loving your neighbor, make sure they know why you love them and how you are able to love them. Tell them about Jesus and how he came into this world not to condemn the world, but to save the world. The way we love and interact with believers and unbelievers is different, but the goal is the same. The goal is that they would encounter and be drawn closer to Jesus through our words and actions. "And whatever you do, in word or in deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him." ( Colossians 3:17 )